♥ Weekly Check-In

Recovery & Relationship Check-In

Each person fills in their prompts before the check-in. Hold your partner's boundaries. Share one prompt at a time.

SA Partner· Fill in your prompts before the check-in.

SA — your namePartner's nameEmail (to receive your completed sheet)Check-in date

✦ Section One

Recovery Check-In Script

A shared reflection on your individual recovery and healing this week. Take turns, hold each other's boundaries, and respond with care.

SA Starts

5 min. max

My success that I am most proud of in supporting my recovery and healing this week is:

I feel and about this success.

My challenge that I experienced with my recovery this week has been:

I feel and about this challenge.

The tools that I used for my challenges are:

The one thing I can do to support my recovery in the week ahead is:

Partner

Partner's Response

5 min. max

Take a few moments to consider.

I hear that you feel and about your success.

I feel and when I hear about this success.

I understand that you feel and about your challenge.

I feel and when I hear about this challenge.

One thing I can do moving forward in response to this information, in supporting you and our relationship, is:

SA Affirmation to Partner

“Thank you for in my recovery.”

Partner

Partner Goes Second

5 min. max

My success that I am most proud of in supporting my healing this week is:

I feel and about this success.

My challenge that I experienced with my healing this week has been:

I feel and about this challenge.

The tools that I used for my challenges are:

The one thing I can do to support my healing in the week ahead is:

SA Response

5 min. max

Take a few moments to consider.

I hear that you feel and about your success.

I feel and when I hear about this success.

I understand that you feel and about your challenge.

I feel and when I hear about this challenge.

One thing I can do moving forward in response to this information, in supporting you and our relationship, is:

Partner Affirmation to SA

“Thank you for in my healing.”

✦ Section Two

Relationship Check-In Script

This portion focuses on the relationship itself. Keep statements clear and respectful. Use “I” statements. Keep misunderstood moments to 1–3 sentences.

SA Starts

5 min. max

This week I have felt most proud about myself and our relationship in the following way:

This week I have felt most supported and appreciated by you in our relationship in the following way:

This week I have felt misunderstood and about the following situation (1–3 sentences; be respectful and clear; use “I” statements):

This week I feel that I have not heard or understood you in the following way:

What I need moving forward to feel best supported in this relationship over the next week is:

What I am willing to contribute to support our relationship moving forward over the next week is:

Partner

Partner's Response

5 min. max

Thank you for sharing your positive actions and feelings about our relationship and your wants and needs. Thank you for taking ownership of your challenges; this allows me to feel and .

I hear that what you need from me is:

I am willing to try to be more aware and work on this.

I also hear that you are willing to contribute support by:

Partner

Partner Goes Next

5 min. max

This week I have felt most proud about myself and our relationship in the following way:

This week I have felt most supported and appreciated by you in our relationship in the following way:

This week I have felt misunderstood and about the following situation (1–3 sentences):

This week I feel that I have not heard or understood you in the following way:

What I need moving forward to feel best supported in this relationship over the next week is:

What I am willing to contribute to support our relationship moving forward over the next week is:

SA's Response

5 min. max

Thank you for sharing your feelings about our relationship and your wants and needs. Thank you for taking ownership of your challenges; this allows me to feel and .

I hear that what you need from me is:

I am willing to try to be more aware and work on this.

Conclusion

Each person keeps their weekly sheets in their recovery notebooks to reflect on over the week ahead, and as a motivational tool for improving interactions with the other. Practice meeting your own individual needs while endeavoring to meet a need (a need, not all needs) of your spouse or partner.

A closing note: The check-in is a container — one of many in your recovery and healing. The work does not end when the check-in does. It continues in your individual therapy, your recovery program, your own reflection, and in the small daily moments between check-ins. Each week's worksheet is a snapshot, not a verdict. Over time, these pages become a record of how you are learning — together and separately — to show up differently.

Signatures

The person in recovery (SA) and their partner each sign below to acknowledge this week's check-in.

SA — person in recovery

Draw your signature in the box above

Partner

Draw your signature in the box above